Vaginismus
If penetration feels impossible, painful, or triggers an involuntary tightening you can't control, you're not alone — and this is a recognized, workable difficulty, not a personal failing.
What it can look like
Vaginismus refers to an involuntary contraction of the pelvic floor muscles that makes penetration (during sex, a gynecological exam, or with a tampon) difficult, painful, or impossible. It can be present from a person's first attempts at penetration, or develop later after a difficult experience, an infection, childbirth, or a period of anxiety around sex. It is a physical response, but it's very often connected to emotional and psychological factors — fear, past experiences, or the anticipation of pain itself, which can become a self-reinforcing cycle.
How therapy can help
In therapy, we work at your pace to understand the factors contributing to the response — physical, emotional, and relational — using a humanistic and cognitive-behavioral approach. The goal isn't to rush toward penetration, but to help you feel safe in your body again, reduce anticipatory anxiety, and rebuild a sense of ease with intimacy, whether you're working through this on your own or with a partner.
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